The Freedom in Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the most profound and transformative acts we can perform. It’s not just a moral or spiritual concept—it’s a scientifically backed necessity for emotional and physical well-being. Yet it remains one of the hardest things to do, especially when the wounds run deep.

When we hold onto resentment, our bodies react as though we are in constant danger. Studies show that an unwillingness to forgive triggers the release of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, keeping the nervous system in a prolonged state of fight-or-flight. This chronic stress has been linked to heart disease, high blood pressure, and weakened immune function. In contrast, research from Stanford University reveals that those who practice forgiveness experience lower stress, improved heart health, and even better sleep.

But forgiveness is not about condoning the wrong or forgetting the pain—it’s about releasing the hold that pain has on us. The Bible reminds us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13). When we forgive, we reclaim our power. We step out of the shadows of anger and into the light of emotional freedom.

The emotional toll of unforgiveness is just as severe. Holding onto anger and resentment can lead to anxiety, depression, and even PTSD. Dr. Frederic Luskin, a leader in forgiveness research, found that those who actively forgive report increased happiness, reduced anxiety, and improved relationships. This aligns with Christ’s teaching: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32).

Choosing forgiveness is not easy. It is an act of courage. But in letting go, we find peace—not just for those who hurt us, but for ourselves. Because in the end, forgiveness is never about them; it’s about freeing ourselves from the chains of the past. As Jesus said, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14).